For a long time, LGBT advocates have pushed the idea that you can be born gay. This, however, is simply not true, and ironically, some of the best scientific evidence that you can't comes from the very studies intended to prove you can. Yet, setting science aside, we, as Christians, know that the God who forms us in the womb (Psalm 139:13) does not tempt us to evil (James 1:13), and thus we simply cannot be born gay.
Nevertheless, LGBT advocates argue that you cannot choose who you are attracted to, and so born gay or not, it is simply bigoted to say gay people are wrong to live gay lifestyles. But this treats homosexuality as something extraordinary. Have you ever heard the word "heterophobic"? Of course not. It doesn't exist. It's even got that red, squiggly line underneath it as I type it. The word doesn't exist for two reasons.
First, actual homophobes treat homosexuality as a special sin. They can tolerate all manner of abominations, but if you're gay, no, you're seen as a special kind of bad. But where is this in the Bible? You won't find it. God treats all sin the same. You sin, you're worthy of death, it's that simple. James 2:8-13 tells us that because the same God gave the same commands, if you keep the whole law and yet offend just once, you're guilty of all. And so such homophobes are, quite frankly, stupid.
But the second reason we don't hear about heterophobia is because although a "good" Christian will treat sexual immorality consistently, LGBT advocates do not usually acknowledge this fact. They're so tied up in the fact that Christians believe homosexuality is sin, they don't often acknowledge that the Bible says that to even look at a woman with lust is also sin.
Go with me to Matthew 5. Specifically, verses 27-30 say "You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell."
Now, can you imagine the outrage if this verse was directly addressing homosexuality? "You have heard it was said # LoveWins, but I tell you the truth; love takes no pleasure in wrong doing (1 Corinthians 13:6). If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell." And yet, say this about straight sin, few people will bat an eye. But God certainly bats His eyes at sin. In Matthew 16:24, He has this to say: "If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me."
So what difference does it make who is attracted to whom? Is attraction a valid excuse for sin? Are gay people permitted to obey their attractions but straight people must be held to a higher standard? After all, straight people do not get to choose who they are attracted to either. Yet Jesus says if you so much as look at a woman with lust, you are committing adultery. He even tells us (metaphorically, of course) to gouge out your eyes if you can't avoid doing it.
Attraction may well be unavoidable, and unfortunately, we live in a world where modesty is seen as an archaic value, obsolete in our time. Dress standards for both genders have significantly declined. The result? Men look everywhere with lust. But how do we respond to that attraction? Answer: With self control. This is what it means to deny ourselves.
When a man looks at a woman, he does not have to sleep with her. Indeed, if he does so without her consent, that's called rape. "I can't help who I'm attracted to" does not excuse that. And if she consents, that's fornication. If you're married (or if you're not, imagine you are), imagine if your spouse slept with another person. Would you not be just a little displeased with them? "Oh, but honey, I can't help who I'm attracted to." A sane spouse would hit the roof! How dare you violate our sacred union? Not only that, how dare you make such a feeble excuse for it?
And so why should gay people be any different? Of course you don't get to choose who you're attracted to, but you do get to choose whether or not you act on that attraction. Again, if you don't, that's called rape. It is rape if you act on an attraction without the consent of the one you are attracted to, and it is even rape if the one you are attracted to acts on your attraction without your consent.
Attraction is not an excuse for homosexuality, and the whole "born gay" thing is just a red herring. We all have a choice about whether or not to obey God, and the choice God commands us to make is repentance. Repentance of heterosexual and homosexual sin alike.