The term "homophobia", while it should mean something along the lines of genuine hatred towards gays, has become code for anyone who doesn't completely agree with, or even celebrate the LGBT agenda. This deceptive use of language is, put simply, more abominable than the act itself. Rather than being used to identify hatred, it has instead been used to direct hatred towards Jews, Christians, and even gay people who have not been radicalised.
The reality is, as a Christian, I cannot consistently hate a gay person. The Bible tells me that hatred is akin to murder (1 John 3:15), that if I don't know love, I don't know God (1 John 4:8), and that I even have to love my enemies, even to the point of blessing and praying for them (Matthew 5:43-48). In other words, if a Christian hates someone, first they have to act like they don't, then more importantly they have to work to make sure they really don't.
Personally, I have an advantage in this area. Before I converted, I was in the process of "coming out" as gay, and even during the early days of my Christian walk, I continued doing so, claiming God was ok with it. Bottom line, as an ex-gay, I have the ability to sympathise with current gays. It's just as hard for an ex-gay to be homophobic as it is for an actual gay to be homophobic.
The result of all this is that most (not all) accusations of homophobia are complete hogwash. They are nothing more than attempts to shut down legitimate conversation by slinging mud at Conservatives.
But the ironic thing is, most LGBT activists are truly homophobic. They treat gays like mindless pawns, exploiting them at every opportunity just to spit in the face of God. Some of their arguments even literally compare gay people to animals, and at the end, the sin of homosexuality is just one more thing that invokes God's judgment. For me as a Christian, the most uncomfortable thing is the knowledge that many people won't make it to Heaven. Their sin is so precious to them that they will never repent, and thus will condemn themselves to Hell. This isn't what God wants for them. He doesn't want anyone to go to Hell (2 Peter 3:9). But nevertheless, many people will. Now you tell me which of these two statements is homophobic:
"You're a sinner, and one of your sins is homosexuality. You need to repent and turn to Jesus so He can forgive you and you can have eternal life."
"You're worth nothing to me, just a political pawn. Stay in your sins and go to hell."
The first statement is the Gospel. We all sin, and deserve God's wrath because of it. But because Jesus took God's wrath on our behalf, we can be granted eternal life as a gift from God, not because we deserve it, but because He loves us enough to give it to us anyway. Homosexuality isn't the sin, but it is a sin, one that isn't worth keeping.
The second statement isn't something LGBT activists will ever say, but it is the raw foundation of their belief. In their eyes, sin is worth going to Hell for, and taking a bunch of people down with them. How is that anything less than homophobic? Surely there's nothing more homophobic than wanting a gay person to spend eternity separated from their creator? Is there anything more hateful than robbing someone of eternal life just to satisfy an agenda?